Aug 29, 2016

The Ghosts of Exes past. #micdrop

January of 2012 was when I officially let go of my ex. 4 years and 8 months ago. Those of you that know the story are aware of how toxic of a relationship it was and how much it changed me. For those of you that have met me since that time- just know, it was BAD.

A lot has changed in the last 4 years. I have changed. It has been for the best. You would not recognize the person I was then. I barely do. This relationship was a thing of the past as far as I was concerned. After calling things off I decided to get my life together and he decided to marry "the other woman".

It's been a very closed door for all those years. He's reached out maybe once or twice. Never anything major. That door was kicked open this past weekend and much to my surprise it pulled on my heartstrings. If I had been asked how I would handle it, I would have said it wouldn't phase me to run into him or have a casual conversation with him. Boy, was I wrong.

Below is the entire conversation had throughout my Saturday. I apologize now for the explicit word at the end. After trying to end the conversation multiple times before, it was the only thing that seemed like it was going to work. 

Yes, I very well knew who it was. Just needed to give him a reality check.

Actually, no. It's not a complicated question. There is no grey area.

You weren't who YOU said you were!

Whoops, cut out part of the convo... too many screenshots. Basically said he knows we didn't end well (understatement of the century), and that we had a really good run. I, in return, said "actually no it wasn't really good".


 This might be my most epic #micdrop ever. We can never predict what life will throw at us. It seems as though when we are doing our best we can find the greatest opposition that will never make sense. I am grateful I was surrounded by friends that cared enough about me to make sure I didn't fall back into his manipulative trap. They were my clarity in the storm of emotions that Andy brought back up.

I never would have made it through this without relying on the person I have become. It would have been easy to retreat back to the person I was when I was with him. There are so many factors in my progress. I owe a lot to my family, to church, and to my friends along the way. I wouldn't be who I am today without this experience but that certainly doesn't mean I need to go back and try to relive it.

To all the girls that know- just what this feels like. This is for you too.
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  1. Thanks for sharing this story. I feel like it's a little too familiar for a lot of people, including me. I appreciate you being the rockstar that you are and especially for sharing your strength and wisdom with those of us that need it. You're a beautiful woman inside and out!!

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