Mar 9, 2023

Peace, Love, and long time no talk

Can you believe it has been 2.5 years since my last post? YIKES. So many posts have been drafted and have yet to make it out of the draft phrase. 

Welcome to a new year. (I am aware we are 3 months in. Haters, please move along.) I don't subscribe to the "new you" mentality, but I can subscribe to an "improved you" mentality. And as we can tell from the latency of this post, I also don't follow the timeline of a new year to make those continual improvements. 

This comes back to my core values of always striving to learn. Knowledge is powerful in any avenue you pursue. Enhancing knowledge about something you already know or starting from scratch and being humble enough to learn something new! Either way, you are improving. 

While many formative experiences help create who we are, there is also the opportunity for each of us to explore and grow more organically. Like a pressure cooker, those forced experiences taught us that we also need the slow cooker option, letting things sit, ruminate, and come to fruition. 

When it comes to getting out of a slump (winter blues, anyone?) or capitalizing on a positive momentum you've gained, how do you set your personal goals? Do you have a process? Do you have accountability partners? Share it all with me, please! 

As we all set goals, let us be open to the opportunities on the table; whether we are brought into a situation or create the situation, be open to learning and improving ourselves.

Sep 4, 2020

A Mental Health Day

The experience I have had is that once you start talking about [experiencing a mental health struggle], you realize that actually you’re part of quite a big club.”  — Prince Harry
Today is a day I would typically be working- shuffling through the day to end out the week and get ready for the weekend. We all know what a Friday can feel like. We let ourselves fall into a monotonous routine throughout the week, going through the motions, accomplishing projects as they come about, and then starting over. 

 Instead of working today, we were given the day as a mental health day. We were asked to do something that helps us feel centered. What is it that helps you to stay centered? For me, there are a lot of things, but it usually is something outside. I've never been one to openly talk about mental health. I have suffered through my own battles and I have days where I'm overcome with sadness. 

I am not sure why there is a stigma around mental health, but there has been my entire life. I felt such shame when I had to admit I was depressed or when I was so anxious and unable to sleep at night and needed to go to the doctor for help. Why? Life is hard. We are finding ourselves in new situations, some are very scary, overwhelming, or confusing. We need to acknowledge the pain we are feeling and know that we can overcome it. Sometimes we can do things on our own with our support crew and sometimes we need a little help from a professional. There is no shame in either option. You are not alone. 

 That brings me to today. What did I do today for my own mental health? I slept in until 8:45! I got up and took a walk. I sat down and ate breakfast at our kitchen table. I decorated (YAY!) the house with all things Fall! I started and finished an audiobook. I took a bath. And now, I am sitting at my desk thinking about mental health and how I can incorporate little things into my daily life to be more centered. 

 The reality is that there are so many things I already do daily that are done with the purpose of feeling centered, happy, productive, and balanced. Some of these things I could do more often. 

- Going to bed early
- Connecting with my people 
- Meditation
- Prayer
- Reading my scriptures
- Making my bed
- Playing with Poppy and Roxy
- Drinking lots of water
- Getting a workout in
- Sitting outside for a bit
- Disconnecting or distancing from social media

I also need to recognize the purpose of these activities and live in the moment rather than thinking through the next thing I need to do. I took all expectations of myself off the table today. That allowed me to focus on me and what I needed to do for me. Unfortunately, we can't all take a mental health day every day, but we can incorporate more moments into our lives to focus on our mental health. 

If you are struggling, if you know someone who is, if you aren't sure-- take a moment and connect with yourself or with that friend. Recognize it, know you aren't alone, create a step one for yourself (even if it is making your bed every morning), and take it day by day. 

You can do this. We can do this. 

Aug 20, 2020

Goodbye, Social Media!

The irony of this post is not lost on me. Many know I am a former Social Media Specialist and spent years in that world. That leads to today where I am very much an ANTI-Social Media person. It is so easy for social media to overshadow our lives. If you are wanting more control of your life like I was, read on for some of my tips and tricks to distance yourself from the addiction of social media.

What were my final straws?

  • Politics
  • Hate
  • Fake news
  • Lack of awareness // sharing without being informed or even reading beyond the headline
  • Comparison
  • Need for Likes // Comments (I have written about this before. Circa 2014)
I'm not sure I will ever delete my social accounts in totality (I NEED my Goldendoodle group), but I do know I can do things to step back. 
  1. Delete apps from your phone 
  2. If that is too extreme: turn off notifications
  3. Set a time limit for how long you can be on Instagram. (Set a reminder in IG)
  4. Create rules for what you will and will not do when you go on Facebook.
    1. Avoid scrolling 
    2. Search for people you want to interact with 1:1
    3. Post (authentically... be real. be you.)
    4. Etc.
  5. Designate the number of times you can go on to any of your social accounts.
  6. Reach out via text, call, or something else to truly check in with your friends.
If you want less of a drastic approach, you can go through and unfollow people on FB with remaining friends. This is just incredibly tedious and time-consuming. You do you. 

To take it a step further, I have been made aware that sometimes my whole phone is a distraction from active in-person conversations. Now the task at hand is being more present and leaving the phone in the other room. I would say at home, but who are we kidding? I never leave the house anymore. 🤣

Are you in my same boat? What have you tried? Or are you going to try something new to add some healthy distance between you and social media? 

Aug 17, 2020

The Quarantined 30th!

Suddenly I am 30! I am a lover of birthdays and celebrating the people I love! I believe birthdays are an incredible checkpoint for each of us to evaluate. Maybe that is why I am not big on New Year's resolutions. I like to set my expectations for the next year on my birthday. It’s a good time to recognize the great things and show gratitude. It’s a good time to call out some shortcomings and work on them. It’s a great time to determine what to work towards and focus on. And it’s the best time to acknowledge the people in your corner and supporting you the whole time.

Well, it's no secret that our world is a little wonky. I wasn't going to let my birthday be ruined because of COVID. Lucky for me, it is my season and the outdoors are fair game! 

Camping off the grid it was! Zach planned our adventure and a couple friends joined us in Stolle Meadows Just outside of Cascade, ID. Zach and I hooked up our toy hauler (best purchase ever!) and headed out to the land of no service and beautiful views. We spent the weekend hiking, riding our ATV, star gazing, eating good food, and being far away from all the people! 

We were camping over a long weekend Thursday evening until Sunday afternoon. Today, we kept my birthday lowkey and with the people, I love most in this world, my husband, and my family! We slept in, had sushi lunch at the park by the water (yes, it was 100 degrees that is how much my family loves me!) Our evening was walking around a store and going out to dinner with just me and Zach. I couldn't have asked for a better birthday in this chaotic world!

May 27, 2020

Peace, Love, & a Quarantine Wedding

One week of being married ☑️

It's been a long time since I have written and MY oh MY how things have changed since. Life is an incredible journey that can teach us so much. When I look back now at the last year of my life, I can tell you, I am a completely different person. I was pushed and forced to grow and learn. I have never been so grateful to do just that!

I am usually a pretty open book- some might say too open. 😂 This past year I kept things closer to my chest and truly focused on me, on us, on the essential stuff. This is something I would encourage everyone to do. A little refocus can be life-changing! And sometimes we have to fall to become stronger as we pick ourselves back up again. Allowing myself to ignore the comparisons, the fear of judgment, and even other people's opinions propelled me to a new level and sense of who I am and what I need.

As I took this step back, I found several things in my life that I needed to change! I wasn't happy and there was no reason I shouldn't have been happy. During this time, I changed little things and a few big things in my life. I was not alone on this journey. I was lifted, supported, and loved.

All of those changes brought us to this extraordinary time in my life! No words can express the completeness and joy in my heart.

When we look around the world today, it can be overwhelming. I have found a strange calm and peace during this time because I had Zach by my side. There seemed like no better time than NOW to get married. And it will be a memorable moment for us beyond any 'normal' wedding.

A Zoom wedding is definitely one for the books. I never could seem to do things the way everyone else did. 😜 We had a monitor right beside us so we could see our virtual guests during the ceremony, and it was pretty magical! Although not all guests are pictured, they are all loved and appreciated! With a limited amount of friends and family with us in the room and more connected to us, virtually, we got MARRIED!

Some of our lovely guests-- Those without video on don't appear. :( 

Photo Cred: Laura Horne

Photo Cred: Janessa Oriol

We are so very ready for the next step in our lives together. We are grateful to have shared the day with a small group of our friends and family. As much as I wish we could have had all our supporters there, it was nice to keep it small and simple. We are now so happy to share and celebrate with everyone! I can't even begin to count the number of supporters I have had over the years and to all the people that helped me believe in people again. I love you all! I have no doubt if you are reading this now, you are one of those people!

Enjoy some random photos from our day. Since we were so covert about this, we have also had requests for our registry. If you are wanting to send us something and help us to keep celebrating, you can find our registry here.

Thank you, Sammi and Brittany for the socks! They went perfectly with my sparkly sneakers!

Shoutout to my sister, Liz for the sash!

Thank you, Sammi and Brittany for the socks! They went perfectly with my sparkly sneakers! 
Cheers to living your best life to the fullest!

Apr 30, 2019

Losing is a Good Thing

I had a moment yesterday. I have been regularly walking a mile with one of my top supporters, Chantal!  We started walking around the time I started Weight Watchers. I was trying to find ways to ease into a healthier life. I was NOT about to pick up running. I needed to start somewhere.  I opted for: taking the stairs more and regularly walking a mile. Walking a fast-paced mile and talking at the same time is HARD. I was out of breath the whole time. Yesterday, I didn’t feel that at all! I felt like we could have kept going, talked even more, and walked a little faster. That was ground breaking for me.  
I had an even better moment today! I hit a big milestone of 20lbs down!!! For two months, I’ll take it! I haven’t really seen a difference in how I look. It has been defeating at times. I would look at the scale, get on, off, and back on again. Yes, indeed, I was down. I couldn’t see it. Not until today when my friend, Laura, took this picture of me holding 20lbs of PASTA. Then I put it side by side with an old, but recent photo. NOW, I see it.

I have never been so happy to lose. I haven’t felt this good in a long time. I can do small things and not die. That is why I started this journey in the first place. My goal was never and will never be to “get skinny”. It is to be comfortable doing the things I love to do. My health should not hold me back from the things I want to do. Two months ago, I made a commitment to myself. Looking back, I am so glad I did.

Apr 16, 2019

Stop Lying.

WHOOPS. I missed last week, but that made me “on time” for my post this week. Last week, I went up 1lb and that sums up the entirety of the whole week for me. Zach and I went to Utah this weekend to visit family and friends. It was my first trip while doing Weight Watchers. I was positive I couldn’t travel and stay within my points. Yeah, I totally used some weekly points. Not all of them though! It was slightly shocking to me when I got on the scale this morning and was 2lbs down. OKAY. I can do this!

It’s funny to me to notice the difference in how I felt last week when I had gained and then compare it to this week and being down on the scale. Last week, as every meal approached or boredom set in, my thoughts turned negative and stayed there. This isn’t worth it. It takes too much time. I have to plan ahead.... Blah. Blah. Blah.

I am starting this week with a rejuvenated view.

Isn’t this true for all we do? When we fail, don’t do as well as we planned or had hoped, we get in a negative headspace. Why try then? What’s the point? I was fine before.
LIES. I didn’t start this journey for kicks and giggles. I did it because I saw room for improvement, growth, and to feel better. I would say this is true for all my endeavors in life. I didn’t give up when I wanted a bachelor’s degree, when I wanted to try out for the voice, when I wanted to go on a backpacking trip through New Zealand and Australia by myself to swing on the world’s largest swing, or when I wanted to buy my first home (and then second). 

The facts of life are simple. If we look for it, we can find it. We will always be able to say why we can’t do something. How about we ditch the easy way of doing things and focus on finding the reasons why we CAN do it.

We are stronger than we think. Whatever your current journey may be, you can do it. Set backs happen. Stick with it and look for the reasons you can. That is my goal for my journey to a healthy Meg.